Talk About Sex With Big & Small Kids

Parents, if you don’t talk to your children about sex, someone else will – and who knows what they’ll say.

Melissa Edgington (who I personally think has the best blog name ever) gives some helpful pointers on how to start.

If we start young, we can easily keep the conversation going.

If your child is a teenager and you haven’t opened up a conversation about sex, just do it. It will be awkward and weird, but don’t miss your opportunity to influence him, here and now, while you have him in your house. Invite him to share his struggles with you, and give him godly guidance, even if he doesn’t act like he wants to hear it. He needs to hear it.

But, if you have younger kids, you have a golden opportunity to open this conversation during a phase of life when they aren’t self-conscious and embarrassed.

1. Start Small. In age-appropriate ways.

2. Provide Room for Honest Questions. Begin an open-ended, on-going discussion that leaves plenty of room for questions and honest talk.

3. Don’t Stop Talking. Just keep it going. Check in every once in awhile. Ask questions about what she has heard. Find out if she has questions to ask you. If you are especially feeling awkward about it, talk in the car so that you don’t have to look each other in the face. You may both talk more easily that way.

As Christian parents, we want to disciple our kids and lead them in the ways of God. We can’t fool ourselves into thinking that sex education isn’t a huge part of discipleship. Sexual sin is dangerous and rampant, and it always has been. We can’t help our kids deal with the incredible pull of sexual desire unless we talk about it. Will it feel awkward? Maybe, at first. But, it’s nothing we can’t handle. Sex shouldn’t be a dirty word in Christian homes. If we want our kids to think biblically about sex and about their own worth, then we have to teach them what the Bible says about it, one conversation at a time.

Read the whole post here.

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